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Keeping Your Life In Motion

posted Aug 10, 2008, 8:23 PM by Web Master   [ updated Aug 13, 2008, 7:12 PM ]

KEEPING YOUR LIFE IN MOTION


Sometimes Any Action Is Better Than None


By Blaine Smith

During most of his adult life, Emmett Kirkland worked for Watkins Realty. Emmett, my wife's grandfather, was a master craftsman, who maintained rental properties for the Pittsburgh firm.


     As the Great Depression set in, the company's rental income dried up, and Mr. Watkins laid off Emmett. Like countless others, Emmett fell victim to the economic fallout of the times. Like few others, he countered his setback with an unusual response. He informed Mr. Watkins that if the company was unable to salary him, he would continue serving them--for free. He reasoned it was better to stay active and productive, than to sit idly at home bemoaning his lot.


     Emmett's decision to continue working without pay proved fortunate in many ways. His positive spirit inspired his wife and five children to be resourceful, and to find creative solutions to the family's needs. His dedicated service to Watkins Realty helped it continue to meet clients' needs and to weather its financial crisis. On occasion, when revenue was more than anticipated, Mr. Watkins shared some of the windfall with Emmett.  And when the company's hard times finally eased, Emmett, of course, was the first to be rehired.


     Although I was never privileged to meet him, Emmett Kirkland is on the short list of my personal heroes, for I've seen his influence upon his son Glenn--Evie's father--and, through Glenn, upon her. What's most impressive about Emmett's response to the layoff is that he took action when the natural response would have been inaction. This magnanimous step of faith brought great benefits to him, his family and numerous others.

SMALL STEPS CAN MAKE A MAJOR DIFFERENCE


We each experience a multitude of setbacks and losses during our own lifetime. So often our instinctive response to them is immobility. We're stunned by the disappointment, and unable to think clearly about what to do.


     It's easy enough to get moving again when there is some radical new beginning we can make--a major change, so grandiose that it fuels our energy and hope. It's typical, too, when we're depressed, to imagine that only a major improvement will solve our problems. We look with contempt upon the small and routine steps we can take to improve our life. Yet often these are precisely what will break the spell of our depression and open us to God's fresh provision for our needs.


     My own grandfather, Milton Smith, suffered an extraordinary loss as a young man, when his wife of ten years died. They were both only in their late twenties at the time.


     Several years later, while working as a traffic patrolman in Washington, D.C., he stopped a car for exceeding the (yes) eighteen-miles-an-hour speed limit around Dupont Circle. The chance encounter led to a friendship with the driver, Katherine Horton, then a romance, then--marriage. One remarkable moment brought a cherished relationship that forever changed his life and healed the grief of losing his first love. Yet God's provision came through the most routine of activities for him—a traffic stop.


     Undoubtedly, my granddad began that day expecting nothing unusual. Perhaps he didn't want to go to work at all. Yet he went, plodding ahead with his routine responsibilities. His experience reminds us how simply keeping our life in motion sometimes opens us suddenly to help from God that we dearly welcome.

 

A NEW BEGINNING FOR MOSES


We learn this lesson from an incident in Moses' early life. When he was about forty years old, he killed an Egyptian whom he caught beating an Israelite. Moses thought he was acting heroically. Yet he soon found that Pharaoh wanted to kill him for his vigilantism; his fellow Jews were also angry at him, for stirring up trouble for them with the Egyptians.


     Moses then fled from Egypt to the neighboring Midian (Ex 2:11-25). There, "he sat down by a well." It is hard to imagine anyone feeling more isolated and helpless than Moses must have at this moment. He had abandoned the privileged environment of Pharaoh's palace, his friends and everything familiar, and now was alone and destitute in a strange land. He may have thought he had no options for rebuilding his life.


     But soon an opportunity arose to do something constructive. The daughters of the priest of  Midian "came and drew water, and filled the troughs to water their father's flock." Shepherds came and chased the women and their sheep away. Moses then assisted these frightened women, brought them back to the well, protected them from the shepherds, and helped them water their flock.


     From what we know of Moses' assertive personality and physical strength, this act of chivalry must have seemed second nature to him--simply the obvious response at that moment. Yet the women reported Moses' deed to their father, Jethro, who was greatly impressed. Jethro befriended Moses, then provided him a home, a job tending his sheep, and a wife--his daughter Zipporah.


     One act of kindness on Moses' part opened the door to his finding a new family, enjoyable employment, a marriage partner and a comfortable living situation for the next forty years. By merely rising to the occasion and doing what was natural, Moses took a step that brought God's extravagant provision for his needs.

FINDING GOD'S BEST BY DOING THE OBVIOUS


What emerges from Moses' experience is one of the most helpful principles of guidance presented in Scripture. To say it simply: we find much of God's will for our life by doing the obvious.


     Because God's providence is operating fully in our lives when we follow Christ, he conveys much of his guidance through the normal responsibilities and opportunities of everyday life, including many routine activities. Martin Luther spoke of God preaching a "daily sermon" to us through these circumstances. He meant that God gives us guidance through them, as clear and vital as if he were speaking to us in an audible voice.


     The most encouraging part is that by merely doing the ordinary, we occasionally put ourselves in position to enjoy an unusual blessing from God--the type we might imagine could result only from taking a major, carefully-planned step of faith. We should remember Moses' experience in Midian often, especially when we've suffered a defeat and can't see any way to make a fresh start.

THE BENEFITS OF KEEPING OUR LIFE IN MOTION


Appreciating how God guides us through the circumstances of daily life can do wonders to revive our hope, not only when we experience setbacks, but when the pattern of our day-to-day life becomes too repetitive or boring. We can be confident there is purpose in our plodding ahead, for as we are faithful to our responsibilities, God is full of surprises.


     Keeping our life in motion is critical when it comes to reaching goals. We are better able to think creatively when we are actively pursuing a goal, than when we are merely considering doing so. As we overcome inertia and move forward, our subconscious rallies, and helps us solve problems that otherwise elude us. Just getting started on a project is often half the battle. Vincent van Gogh advised aspiring artists:
    

"One must not work in a thousand fears, and yet that is what
          many do who are so anxious to get hold of the right colors
          and tones that through this very anxiety they become like
          tepid water. The real artists say, 'Just dash the color on!'
          Otherwise, we reach the summit of wisdom when nobody has 

any daring left."

Van Gogh's advice applies to each of us, in any endeavor we undertake. We can spend too much time analyzing our options, and wait too long to get started. Sometimes we do better just to "dash the color on." As we begin moving toward our goal, we are better able to recognize how to reach it.


     We also make it easier for others to help us when we are taking clear steps toward a goal, for they are better able to recognize specific ways to assist us. Their incentive to help us is greater, too, when they see that we are serious.  In addition, we present a better role model to others when we're being productive and not merely sitting still. When Emmett Kirkland chose to work unsalaried for Watkins Realty, he made a lasting impression on his children about the value of work, the importance of faithfulness, and the benefits of staying hopeful. His behavior did more to demonstrate to them what trusting Christ involves than any words could ever have conveyed. His legacy inspired them to be optimistic, to work hard, to tackle problems rather than run away from them, and to vigorously trust the Lord to meet their needs.


     We each have far greater influence on other people than we imagine. And we do leave a legacy. When we approach life positively, we inspire others to do the same.

BEYOND FUTILITY


How easily we fall into futility. The effort to improve our life isn't worth it, we assume, and the prospects of success are too remote to merit pursuing a dream.


     Appreciating how fully God is at work in the circumstances of our daily life can give us the heart to press on. It is wonderful when, from time to time, we are able to take major steps of faith. Yet in between such occasions, we can enjoy the same exhilaration of faith in taking small steps, knowing we're participating in God's bigger picture for our life.


     And sometimes, even the smallest step opens us to an unexpected blessing from God. This is a basis for beginning each day with the highest expectations, and for living it with energy and hope.

Words To Learn By

posted Aug 10, 2008, 8:21 PM by Web Master   [ updated Aug 13, 2008, 7:26 PM ]

By Dr. John C. Maxwell

In my years studying leadership and evaluating leaders, I have stumbled across a leadership shortcoming that continually amazes me. Leaders will manage a team, work with the same individuals every day, yet hardly know anything about their people! These leaders have never prioritized acquainting themselves with the dreams, thoughts, hopes, opinions, and values of those they lead.

The best leaders are readers of people. They have the intuitive ability to understand others by discerning how they feel and recognizing what they sense.

I have found that leaders overestimate the amount of time and effort needed to get to know someone. In fact, in only one hour with you in private conversation, I could, probably by asking three questions, find the passion of your life:

What do you dream about?

A person's dreams are powerful revealers of passion. When a person starts to talk about their dreams it's as if something bubbles up from within. Their eyes brighten, their face glows, and you can feel the excitement in their words.

What do you cry about?

Passion can be uncovered by peering into the hurts deep inside a human soul. The experience of pain or loss can be a formidably motivating force. When listening to a story of grief, you hear a voice thick with emotion, you see watery eyes flooded with feeling, and in that moment you glimpse the intense connections between a person's deepest pain and their greatest passion.

What makes you happy?

I have fun hearing what makes people tick and seeing the smile that comes when they talk about where they find joy. Enjoyment is an incredible energizer to the human spirit. When a person operates in an area of pleasure, they are apt to be brimming with life and exuding passion.

If you can uncover a person's dreams, hurts, and joys, you've discovered the central dimensions of their life. This lesson is designed to show you the types of questions that can draw out the passion inside of a person. I've included my own answers to give you an understanding of how the process works. Try to limit your answers to one or two words. Also, notice how each question is asked both positively (what makes you happy) and negatively (what makes you cry). I have found that by expressing opposite feelings and emotions, you reveal your true inner self.

To maximize this lesson, I'll give you four easy assignments.

1. Ask yourself and answer the questions posed in the lesson. In doing so, you'll enhance your self-awareness.
2. Share your answers with your team to allow them to learn about you.
3. Ask your team to answer the questions to encourage their self-discovery.
4. Ask your team to share their answers with one another. This practice will bring team members closer together.

What is your biggest asset?

My greatest asset is my attitude. I discovered this when I was in high school, and the coach of my basketball team appointed me as team captain at the beginning of the year.

I was surprised, because I wasn't the best player on the team. John Thomas was the best player. I was the second or third best player, but I wasn't the best. I was sitting on the floor of the gymnasium with my teammates, and I think the same question was in all of our minds—why is John Maxwell going to be the captain of the team? Anticipating our questions, our coach gave an explanation, "Of all the players on this team, the kid with the best attitude is John Maxwell. He doesn't get discouraged, he believes that we'll win the game, and he's going to be the captain of the team."

What is your biggest liability?

My biggest liability is unrealistic expectations. As with many weaknesses, my unrealistic expectations are the Achilles Heel of my strength.

Many years ago I quit hiring, and I have stayed away from it ever since because I'm a terrible hirer. Why? Because I naturally look for the best in people. When I see a potential employee, I see the raw talent, and I begin thinking how I can help shape the person into a star. I've had numerous failures hiring lousy leaders because I convinced myself I could mold a flawed leader into a top performer.

What do you like most from others?

For me, it's encouragement. Encouragement is the oxygen of the soul, in that it allows you to breathe. Encouragement supports and sustains leadership, especially during the hard times.

What do I like least from others?

I cannot stand people who make excuses—blamers, complainers, and explainers who refuse to accept responsibility for their mistakes.

I admire a person who will admit their faults since it shows me the inner character of that individual. I can accept another's imperfection if they take ownership of their errors because we're all human, and we all fail from time to time.

What is the best thing to have?

I think the best thing to have is friends. For me nothing compares to the joy and fulfillment of going through life with friends you can laugh with, cry with, and celebrate alongside.

What is the worst thing not to have?

I can't imagine a life without hope. Even if my health is failing or my financial situation is grim, if I have hope, I can see a way out of my difficulties.

Hope is the foundation of all change. When people come to me as leaders and they say, "I want to create change within my organization. What should I do?" My response is the obvious answer, "You have to create hope." Nobody changes unless they think life is going to improve. Hope is the motivation that allows people to change.        

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